In the film “The Adam Project” (2022), 12-year old Adam tells his older self:
“I think it is easier to be angry than it is to be sad. And I guess, when I get older, I forget that there’s a difference.” Over the past couple of years, I have come to a few realisations when I have managed to cool off and do some introspection after an angry outburst. I agree with Adam that it really is easier to be angry than it is to be sad. And I think one of the reasons might be that anger doesn’t require so much vulnerability, as anger is an easy default. Moreover, it is easier to apologise for being angry than to process the repercussions of sadness. Anger pushes people away whilst sadness draws them closer. Being left on our own might be an easy way out, as some of us prefer to be alone when we are sad. It doesn’t take so much effort as having to deal with someone’s pity. Or even worse - their unsolicited advice on ‘how to get through this’. However, being angry should never be a replacement for sadness. Moreover - while we practice being brave enough to be vulnerable, a few other things might happen: The better we get at experiencing hurt being transformed into sadness; the more significant the chances are that the world might just be a little less angry overall.
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Julian Reinecke-Watson
4/11/2022 02:18:43 am
I agree totally. We use anger as an easy way out rather than to think about what is actually happening. They say you should count to 10 before reacting, it sounds silly but it actually works. Give yourself time to think.
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Elandri Vorster
4/11/2022 02:20:47 am
I agree whole heartedly. It is sometimes easier to be angry, but it is not better. It is not better to hate. It is not better to push away your loved ones. When you are open and your loved ones can hold you while you are sad, you are changed. Their arms hold you and you become stronger. Only after working through the grief, pain and sorrow can you experience true lasting joy!😁
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Dehan
4/11/2022 02:21:18 am
Funny enough I watched this movie the other day and can agree with adam to. It is very easy to be angry because you don’t have to show your sensitive side to anyone. I can relate to that but the past year I have learned that it is better to talk to someone about your problems instead of keeping everything inside.
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Wilhelm Meyer
4/11/2022 02:22:34 am
I agree with this statement ... I also believe that anger is more of a survival trait ... When we feel threatened we don't sit in a corner and cry, because that won't take the threat away... Maybe it will even show the threat that you are vulnerable and an easy prey ... We resort to anger and hostility to maybe protect ourselves or those around us ... I do believe anger can always be directed towards something orbsomeone.
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Bernice Klopper
4/11/2022 02:26:47 am
This is so true, sometimes people try to hide the true pain and their vulnerability behind an ‘angry-mask’. Anger usually is a reaction driven by being offended or hurt and it is easier to just explode and have a outburst, rather to admit that you are hurt and actually just feeling sad.
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